Remembering My Friend (in all of his complexity)
Two years ago this week, I lost my dear friend Sam to suicide. In the days and weeks following his death, I sat with friends in silence, all of us shocked by this jarring news.We cried.We hugged.And we tried to understand why this happened, yet we were left with no clear answers.That is perhaps the most frustrating thing about suicide.There is almost never just one cause, yet we as survivors want...
"So... which one of you is the boy?"
Last month, I went on a trip to San Francisco to visit my oldest sister. She is seven years older than me and we have always been close, especially now that we’ve both reached our twenties. She is loving and fun, but occasionally dense about gay issues. While we were catching up, enjoying fine San Francisco dining, I told my sister about a new girl I was seeing. It was not new territory; I...
When analogies break down.
Sometimes it’s helpful to compare concepts or experiences to get a better understanding of the world. Other times these analogies insinuate a false equality between the things being compared or they falsely presuppose that the things have the same significance or meaning. “Love is all you need?” attempts to reimagine the world as if it were composed of only gay (presumably cis-) men and...
How Harry Potter Taught Me It's Ok to be Gay
I read Harry Potter when I was in middle school, during that miserable time between childhood and adolescence. Since then, I’ve considered myself a Harry Potter fan. …That is a huge understatement; I love Harry Potter. I’ve read them a hundred times, I know the movies by heart, and I’ve done all the Sporcle quizzes. It was not a passing phase. So now, I can look back and see how the books...
UGH, marriage: so complicated . . .
Despite that the whole marriage debacle, as I like to call it, is exclusionary of the political goals of non-mainstream gay identities (read non-white, non-cisgender, non-upper-middle class, non-documented, non-gay, non-temporarily abled bodies, etc., etc.) there are still reasons why I am weary, against, and put-off by marriage “equality,” whatever that means. Do I think that gay people should...
Participate-in-a-queer-stuff Campaign Different!
Just like Ann Arborites are “doing life different,” it can be said that U of M is “doing university different.” Especially, for “different” folk. Community, diversity, equality-for-all and outside-the-box thinking are between every line written at this school. Which is why this campus is such a dynamic catalyst for change, of all types. One example of...
Liberation through Like-MIndedness
The person I am now, as I near graduation, is much changed from the person I was when I entered college as a freshman. One, of many changes, is in my sexuality. When I began college, I viewed and declared myself as heterosexual. There are now many terms I now use to describe my sexuality, but heterosexual is not one of them. Coming to understand my sexuality paralleled the development of my...
"The Book of Mormon" is spot on
Last weekend, I got to see “The Book of Mormon” on Broadway in New York. The show combined liberal political themes with singing, dancing, and South Park style humor. So, naturally, I loved it. I was especially pleased with the presentation of gay issues. The show offered a clever and funny perspective on religious oppression of homosexuality. It was a relief to laugh at an issue that is so...
All I Need is a Little Space.
I am white. I am gay. I am a cis-man. Almost every space I inhabit I can find someone like me and in most spaces I am very comfortable. I use words like “almost” and “most” because there are clear instances where I am oppressed because I am gay/queer/non-heterosexual. However, the amount of privilege I hold makes life very comfortable and, to be frank, quite easy. My target identities are not...
Jordan Has a Lot of Feelings
It’s hard to believe that my time here at UM is almost over. Four years have come and gone in the blink of an eye, and it’s hard to comprehend how much has changed in those four years. I remember going to the LGBT Commission mass meeting my freshman year and hearing someone say the word “queer” in a positive way, which to me had only ever been used negatively. I remember going to the National...
Out.com's Power List 2013 →
Out.com posted their list of the 50 most powerful and influential gay men and women! These are some fascinating people!
More Republican Senators Back Gay Marriage
Last month, Hillary Clinton officially endorsed gay marriage, adding her voice to the slew of Democratic senators who have done the same. We all expect our democratic leaders to back gay marriage at this point, but more and more republicans are taking that stance as well. So far, three Republican senators have come out in support of gay marriage. Senator Rob Portman (R.-Ohio) decided to change...
When Facebook Turned Red
Every time I checked Facebook last week, it seemed that more of my friends had changed their profile pictures to the red and pink equal sign representing the Human Rights Campaign. HRC promoted the image to support legalizing gay marriage, an issue currently being heard in the Supreme Court. It made me happy to see so many friends support my rights. Of course, I already knew my close...
Confessions of an Elder-in-Training with Jeanne...
Hi, Would love for you to join me on 1/30, Wednesday, 7-8:30 pm for “Confessions of an Elder-in-Training”—stories, songs, and reflections on the aging process. Here’s the scoop: Lesbian musician and workshop leader Jeanne Mackey shares stories, songs, and reflections on the aging process, offering a rare blend of emotional intensity, wry humor, and social commentary....
Anonymous asked: Is this blog ever going to return to having original content? It seems like it has morphed into simply being yet another format for announcements (which seems like a waste of the blog platform), and even these are updated infrequently. We can see all of your event info via Facebook, Twitter, and the website - it would be nice to see original content here rather than the same old announcements over...
Gender Inclusive Housing @ UM!
UMich Housing sign-up registration opens January 14th, 2013 and University Housing is excited to introduce a new option in EAST QUAD next year. It is the Gender Inclusive Living Experience (GILE) - a supportive space for residents of all gender identities (e.g., who identify as a transgender and gender non-conforming). If you plan to return to housing next year we encourage you to apply if you...
WANT TO BE IN THE SPECTRUM CENTER'S FILM SERIES?
The Spectrum Center is seeking students to be interviewed for our film series, What it Means to be Yourself at UM. If you haven’t already seen it, or if you want to see it again, the trailer is on YouTube! We want to hear from YOU. What has your experience as an LGBTQ*, similarly-identifying, or ally student at UMich been? How have your identities shaped your time here? We are interested in YOUR...
storyboard: Happy Spirit Day from Tumblr Spirit Day was created in 2010 by teenager Brittany McMillan as a way to support bullied LGBT youth. This year, Spirit Day is October 19, and Tumblr’s staff joins with communities worldwide — inside and outside of Tumblr — to wear purple in support of anti-bullying efforts and LGBT rights generally.
Anonymous asked: Hi! I'm a senior in high school looking to apply to U of M, could you perhaps summarize any queer alliances/clubs/resources at your school for undergrad students? Sorry if the question's kinda broad, I'm involved in a lot of LGBT activities at my school and I'd love to continue being active in the community :)
WANT TO BE IN THE SPECTRUM CENTER'S FILM SERIES?
The Spectrum Center is seeking students to be interviewed for our film series, What it Means to be Yourself at UM. If you haven’t already seen it, or if you want to see it again, the trailer is on YouTube! We want to hear from YOU. What has your experience as an LGBTQ*, similarly-identifying, or ally student at UMich been? How have your identities shaped your time here? We are interested in...
Anonymous asked: Hi! Could you by any chance tell me more about the Spectrum Center’s coming out groups? What should I expect if I plan to join one?